Below is a visual of what came to me in my meditation this morning around these concepts of connection with self, following my intuition and maintaining daily habits.

Over the past several years circumstances out of my control have cleared from my life things that we in the way of me reaching my highest potential. Over the past month life has brought me circumstances that has guided me to go even deeper within myself. Solidifying the foundation that was started by rooting even deeper into all that I have realized myself to be and all that I know that I am. Life is guiding me to ground and anchor so deeply into my true divine nature that no matter what occurs externally it does not take me out of grounding into this source of being.

As I have grounded into this source of being it has enabled me to become more consistent with my daily habits. My daily habits lead to building what I desire to create.

As I have grounding into this source of being it has enabled me to have the strength and courage to more consistently follow my highest intuitive guidance. Following my highest intuitive guidance allows me to bring about all that I desire in the most complete and fulfilling way.

As I go deeper with this relationship with source, my inner child, myself (all synonymous in this case) I can feel an unmovable, unshakable and undeniable presence come forward.

To create great things it requires to do things that feel hard on a consistent basis. My path, which is different that it has been in the past, is how kind and loving can I be to myself as I go about doing things that feel hard. What I am seeing is that as I take on things that feel hard to do it becomes even more important to spend time with my inner child asking myself “What do you need from me right now?” And feeling the response of “This. What you are doing right now. Giving me your loving attention.”

I can feel a healthy balance being created guided by my intuition and intention. The balance of doing what feels hard so that I can bring forward all that I desire and consistently loving myself through the process.

What I am discovering is how amazing it feels and how with the most conscious approach, I can have it all.

 

Have you ever been a part of a group where you felt like you had to give up a level of personal freedom or expression to stay apart of that group? Maybe it was a group of friends in highschool or college that you felt like you had to act a certain way that wasn’t truly you to fit in and stay a part of the group. Maybe you have been in a group where one of the leaders tried to control you or have you operate in a way that felt unhealthy or was only serving their needs.

The vibration or consciousness of a group originates from its leaders, the policies and procedures these leaders create and then how these are actually held up in reality. When there is someone who brings a more free way of being into a group where control is the predominant paradigm that individual will either adjust to the less free way of being, be cast out or they will raise the group’s consciousness so that it operates at a higher functioning level.

In prison I was kicked out of the “whites” because I choose to be nice and kind to other races. The whites didn’t like that I treated other races just like everyone else. This was threatening to them and saw that I weakened the group because of how I treated others.

When this happened the leader of the whites made up all kinds of stories to justify kicking me out. He shunned me and told the other whites not to associate with me. He told me I could no longer sit with the whites at meals and if we had been friends on facebook I am sure he would have unfriended me. (there was no facebook access in prison)

After all of this happened a few of the whites came to me and told me that they respected how I handled the situation and they wished they could have made the same stand but that they were afraid and would stay associated as a white.

In prison I choose not to play the game of prison politics because I felt this limited my full expression of being.

Are you willing to sacrifice freedom for safety, opportunity, or acceptance? I for one am not willing to sacrifice freedom for these things. I am here as a stand for freedom as an expression of freedom. Freedom is one of my most important values.

Group dynamics, patterns and levels of group consciousness are extremely hard to shift. The only way it is possible is if the leaders of the group shift or if enough people in the group shift to cause the leaders to face what they haven’t been willing to face. It may only take one person to cause a shift or it may take hundreds or thousands. In the end it is what you are willing to stand for and what you are willing to give up to be free.

 

Think and Grow Rich is one of the classics of success and personal development literature. Most people who have ventured into this world of study have at least heard of this book and many have read it.

When I read this book about 15 years ago I took it on whole heartedly. I wrote out my declaration for wealth and read my wealth statement daily. The biggest things I took from this book was to create a burning desire for wealth, fan the flame every day and allow this desire for wealth to become an obsession.

Ultimately these actions only lead me to creating massive attachment to wealth, my businesses, and how people perceived me. Money and wealth became an obsession which created an unhealthy relationship with this area of my life. I began to see people as objects in my road map to wealth as opposed to human beings. This book influenced me to objectify my relationship with others for the purpose of wealth creation.

Did this book actually help me create more wealth in my life?……Yes it did but the results were created from a very unhealthy place and in the end this book only created a mindset that needed to be rewritten so that a more healthy, grounded relationship with money and wealth could be established.

Another interesting observation is that as I have looked at the people who have recommended this book many of them have not created significant wealth themselves and those that have created some level of success have done so through selling the same type of hype, positive mental attitude thinking, or some sort of success program that is the premise for the entire book itself.

To give the book some credit the idea of the mastermind is very powerful and one that I have greatly benefited from and continue to still use in my life.

In conclusion I don’t recommend this book because it creates a mindset for an unhealthy relationship with money and wealth and it seems to beget success stories of individuals, more often than not, who have created their wealth from selling books, workshops or programs of teaching people how to be successful or wealthy.

What are your thoughts on this classic of success literature?
Are there any books on this topic that you feel bring a more grounded and healthy approach to money and wealth creation?

 

You may already be familiar with the “I love you” practice I have shared in past posts. This is where to my own self I say the words “I love you”. As I really began to take on this practice of being my own source of love there were some unique ways in which I discovered loving myself that opened up greater freedom on the inside which has directly impacted how life responds to me. One of these ways is saying the words “I love you” to my genitals. What this has opened up for me on the inside as well as within my sexual relationships is quite profound.

This idea opened up to me through applying the I love you practice to different parts of my body when I would dry off when getting out of the shower. To each body part I would give an I love you or two as I dried it off. On a side note, I tend to give my feet lots of love and appreciation because I feel like they are one the most important yet easily forgotten about parts of the body.

One day the idea popped into my head one day to spend additional time saying “I love you” to my penis and balls because why not. My penis and balls love to receive. And as my own source of love I am here to love all of me exactly as I desire to be loved.

So here is the practice…

To my own penis and balls I say the words “I love you” over and over again. Not in a sexual way but in a way in which I am loving a part of my body.

When I first started to do this so much sadness came up for me. This sadness arose for several reasons. There was sexual shame that I was still carrying and also I realized how disconnected my heart had been to this part of my body. It was if there was two different parts of me, my genitals and my heart.

Even though I felt like I was a masterful lover I realized such a huge gap in how connected I was to this part of my own body. How good I thought I was in bed was different than how connected I felt to my own genitals. I could fuck someone and not have to feel connected to them yet I deeply desired connection.

Over time as I continued to do this I felt like I had restored the connection and relationship to this part of my body. In essence what this practice did was reconnected my heart to my balls and cleared any shame that I had been carrying around sexuality. I now feel so free in how I use the gift of my sex and sexual energy. I feel I have discovered how to give this gift in a way that honors myself and the person I am with.

As I have loved my own penis and balls so deeply it has enabled me that when I am with a sexual partner to offer this as a gift to them. It is a profound gift and experience to be able to love my partner’s genitals as deeply as I have loved my own. In a future post I will share some of the things I have said to my to my sexual partners privates. The impact and the depth of intimacy that is created through this is profound.

Why not give it a try? Take a few moments to love say some “I love yous” to your cock and balls. Feel weird? Try starting with another part of your body. Can you say I love you to your hands and feet? How about saying I love you to other parts of your body? Once you get more comfortable with the idea of giving different parts of your body love come back to your privates and give it a try.

 

The Depth of Surrender

On April 28, 2017, in Personal Growth, by Chris Wise

Here is what love revealed to me today…..There is no end to how deeply this surrender goes. Every new thing that comes into my life just becomes the next thing to surrender into. As each layer of life adds on to the next the depth of surrender emerges.

Over the past week I have had massive breakthroughs in my eating habits and other habits that have felt so elusive, difficult to maintain or required a lot of effort to hold in place.
Now the next level of surrender has been revealed around how I have done work throughout the day. It’s time to surrender into how I do work so these control patterns can be released.
The paradigm of control continues to crumble in my life. I see so clearly the fundamental flaw in the whole PMA and Personal Development approach to living.

The fundamental flaw in these paradigms is the control they attempt to give someone over their thoughts, feelings, and actions with the promise that you will create the life of your dreams and accomplish all of your goals. And while you can create the life of your dreams and accomplish all of your goals you create a prison of control for yourself in the process.
I had created the life of my dreams traveling the world with a beautiful woman, running three different companies, living life how I wanted. But I was on a spinning hamster wheel that I couldn’t get free from.

Being in prison for 19months freed me from my own personal cage of control.

Another way has slowly emerged. A way that begins with the willingness to let it all go. A way that allows life to bring you all that you desire without the prison of control.

The Universe has been unrelenting in wanting me to surrender it all. This path required the willingness to face every fear I have had, the willingness to surrender to the possibility of every outcome, and the willingness to let go of everything that I have loved and valued. But this is the path I chose. This is why I am here.

I feel like I am being pulled into a vortex where everything I desire is being drawn toward me and all that I have to do is to continue to surrender and be willing to let it all go as it comes to me.

It is paradoxical and counter-intuitive from all that the Success and Personal Development Paradigm has taught me. Instead of controlling my thoughts and feelings to manage my states so that I can maintain a powerful state of being, completely surrender, let go into life, where I am free to think whatever I think, where I am free to feel whatever I am feeling, where I am free to do whatever I do.

Its endlessly tiring to try to manage your vocabulary so you don’t say “but” or “try” or “can”. It’s endlessly tiring to continue to avoid or escape feeling sad, bored, lonely, or afraid through “State Change”. This for me was part of the hamster wheel because if I slowed down or stopped trying to manage my states a lifetime of unfelt and avoided emotion was there. And if I didn’t continue to perform, succeed, hit new heights, then who would I be….a failure? the norm? average?
I was taught not to be average, not to settle for the norm, not to fail, not to make mistakes and I felt like I had to keep the hamster wheel going or this is what I would become.

Now as I slowly rebuild my life from a place of power and not force, from a place of surrendered will not force of will the depth of freedom I am experiencing continues to expand.

I discovered a depth of freedom in prison that I had never known on the outside. This freedom continues to expand the more deeply I surrender and it infiltrates every aspect of my being, as it penetrates every cell of my body.
Surrender has brought me the freedom I have always desired. “I love you” and loving my inner child so deeply has enabled me to feel safe enough and loved enough to surrender into life.

 

Success Without Stress: A New Work Paradigm

On March 16, 2015, in Random Thoughts, by Chris Wise

When I first started out in the business world, I worked really hard. I was focused and driven to make things happen. Why? Because I believed the rule that you have to work hard in order to be successful.

Recently, however, I realized how crazy it felt to be putting so much pressure on myself and took a different track. Over the past year I’ve stepped into a new place where I don’t focus on how much or how hard I’m working or even the results that are being created but on how good what I am doing feels to my body. I’ve gotten so in tune with doing what inspires me and following my heart that the things I do no longer feel like work. Yes, I’m still “working”, but now it feels easy and effortless–and amazingly success seems to happen automatically.

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Earnings Per Click (EPC) is a critical marketing metric for almost any company in existence. Understanding what EPC is and how to calculate it can reveal how much (or how little) impact your products are making in the marketplace and what kind of earning potential you can expect in the short- and long-term.

As part of an overall marketing and business strategy, Earnings Per Click data is a valuable and informative tool

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Way Beyond Marketing

On July 31, 2013, in Business Success, Communication, by Chris Wise

Automating your sales and marketing using InfusionSoft systems has some obvious benefits. One that can get overlooked is also managing your internal staff and outsourced team…

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Mastering Your Leadsource

On July 28, 2013, in Business Success, Communication, by Chris Wise

Mastering your leadsource is for those of you that want to optimize your profit margins and make wise decisions about lead generation…

My team and I created a system that allows for us to know where our leads come from – giving us information that allows for us to know where to focus our efforts – eliminating a lot of guess work…

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Joint Venture Webinar Mastery

On July 28, 2013, in Joint Ventures, Webinars, by Chris Wise

Webinars: Behind The Scenes

When it comes to webinars, there is a lot more to it then just showing up the day of the webinar and having it be successful…

Most people really have no process in place to make sure that their webinar is going to be something that those in attendance will feel like it is worth the time spent on the webinar

Since we started doing webinars, we haven’t seen the type of information on how to have an awesome webinar, so we are going to share it with you TODAY…

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