You may already be familiar with the “I love you” practice I have shared in past posts. This is where to my own self I say the words “I love you”. As I really began to take on this practice of being my own source of love there were some unique ways in which I discovered loving myself that opened up greater freedom on the inside which has directly impacted how life responds to me. One of these ways is saying the words “I love you” to my genitals. What this has opened up for me on the inside as well as within my sexual relationships is quite profound.

This idea opened up to me through applying the I love you practice to different parts of my body when I would dry off when getting out of the shower. To each body part I would give an I love you or two as I dried it off. On a side note, I tend to give my feet lots of love and appreciation because I feel like they are one the most important yet easily forgotten about parts of the body.

One day the idea popped into my head one day to spend additional time saying “I love you” to my penis and balls because why not. My penis and balls love to receive. And as my own source of love I am here to love all of me exactly as I desire to be loved.

So here is the practice…

To my own penis and balls I say the words “I love you” over and over again. Not in a sexual way but in a way in which I am loving a part of my body.

When I first started to do this so much sadness came up for me. This sadness arose for several reasons. There was sexual shame that I was still carrying and also I realized how disconnected my heart had been to this part of my body. It was if there was two different parts of me, my genitals and my heart.

Even though I felt like I was a masterful lover I realized such a huge gap in how connected I was to this part of my own body. How good I thought I was in bed was different than how connected I felt to my own genitals. I could fuck someone and not have to feel connected to them yet I deeply desired connection.

Over time as I continued to do this I felt like I had restored the connection and relationship to this part of my body. In essence what this practice did was reconnected my heart to my balls and cleared any shame that I had been carrying around sexuality. I now feel so free in how I use the gift of my sex and sexual energy. I feel I have discovered how to give this gift in a way that honors myself and the person I am with.

As I have loved my own penis and balls so deeply it has enabled me that when I am with a sexual partner to offer this as a gift to them. It is a profound gift and experience to be able to love my partner’s genitals as deeply as I have loved my own. In a future post I will share some of the things I have said to my to my sexual partners privates. The impact and the depth of intimacy that is created through this is profound.

Why not give it a try? Take a few moments to love say some “I love yous” to your cock and balls. Feel weird? Try starting with another part of your body. Can you say I love you to your hands and feet? How about saying I love you to other parts of your body? Once you get more comfortable with the idea of giving different parts of your body love come back to your privates and give it a try.

 

The Depth of Surrender

On April 28, 2017, in Personal Growth, by Chris Wise

Here is what love revealed to me today…..There is no end to how deeply this surrender goes. Every new thing that comes into my life just becomes the next thing to surrender into. As each layer of life adds on to the next the depth of surrender emerges.

Over the past week I have had massive breakthroughs in my eating habits and other habits that have felt so elusive, difficult to maintain or required a lot of effort to hold in place.
Now the next level of surrender has been revealed around how I have done work throughout the day. It’s time to surrender into how I do work so these control patterns can be released.
The paradigm of control continues to crumble in my life. I see so clearly the fundamental flaw in the whole PMA and Personal Development approach to living.

The fundamental flaw in these paradigms is the control they attempt to give someone over their thoughts, feelings, and actions with the promise that you will create the life of your dreams and accomplish all of your goals. And while you can create the life of your dreams and accomplish all of your goals you create a prison of control for yourself in the process.
I had created the life of my dreams traveling the world with a beautiful woman, running three different companies, living life how I wanted. But I was on a spinning hamster wheel that I couldn’t get free from.

Being in prison for 19months freed me from my own personal cage of control.

Another way has slowly emerged. A way that begins with the willingness to let it all go. A way that allows life to bring you all that you desire without the prison of control.

The Universe has been unrelenting in wanting me to surrender it all. This path required the willingness to face every fear I have had, the willingness to surrender to the possibility of every outcome, and the willingness to let go of everything that I have loved and valued. But this is the path I chose. This is why I am here.

I feel like I am being pulled into a vortex where everything I desire is being drawn toward me and all that I have to do is to continue to surrender and be willing to let it all go as it comes to me.

It is paradoxical and counter-intuitive from all that the Success and Personal Development Paradigm has taught me. Instead of controlling my thoughts and feelings to manage my states so that I can maintain a powerful state of being, completely surrender, let go into life, where I am free to think whatever I think, where I am free to feel whatever I am feeling, where I am free to do whatever I do.

Its endlessly tiring to try to manage your vocabulary so you don’t say “but” or “try” or “can”. It’s endlessly tiring to continue to avoid or escape feeling sad, bored, lonely, or afraid through “State Change”. This for me was part of the hamster wheel because if I slowed down or stopped trying to manage my states a lifetime of unfelt and avoided emotion was there. And if I didn’t continue to perform, succeed, hit new heights, then who would I be….a failure? the norm? average?
I was taught not to be average, not to settle for the norm, not to fail, not to make mistakes and I felt like I had to keep the hamster wheel going or this is what I would become.

Now as I slowly rebuild my life from a place of power and not force, from a place of surrendered will not force of will the depth of freedom I am experiencing continues to expand.

I discovered a depth of freedom in prison that I had never known on the outside. This freedom continues to expand the more deeply I surrender and it infiltrates every aspect of my being, as it penetrates every cell of my body.
Surrender has brought me the freedom I have always desired. “I love you” and loving my inner child so deeply has enabled me to feel safe enough and loved enough to surrender into life.

 

Success Without Stress: A New Work Paradigm

On March 16, 2015, in Random Thoughts, by Chris Wise

When I first started out in the business world, I worked really hard. I was focused and driven to make things happen. Why? Because I believed the rule that you have to work hard in order to be successful.

Recently, however, I realized how crazy it felt to be putting so much pressure on myself and took a different track. Over the past year I’ve stepped into a new place where I don’t focus on how much or how hard I’m working or even the results that are being created but on how good what I am doing feels to my body. I’ve gotten so in tune with doing what inspires me and following my heart that the things I do no longer feel like work. Yes, I’m still “working”, but now it feels easy and effortless–and amazingly success seems to happen automatically.

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Earnings Per Click (EPC) is a critical marketing metric for almost any company in existence. Understanding what EPC is and how to calculate it can reveal how much (or how little) impact your products are making in the marketplace and what kind of earning potential you can expect in the short- and long-term.

As part of an overall marketing and business strategy, Earnings Per Click data is a valuable and informative tool

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Way Beyond Marketing

On July 31, 2013, in Business Success, Communication, by Chris Wise

Automating your sales and marketing using InfusionSoft systems has some obvious benefits. One that can get overlooked is also managing your internal staff and outsourced team…

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Mastering Your Leadsource

On July 28, 2013, in Business Success, Communication, by Chris Wise

Mastering your leadsource is for those of you that want to optimize your profit margins and make wise decisions about lead generation…

My team and I created a system that allows for us to know where our leads come from – giving us information that allows for us to know where to focus our efforts – eliminating a lot of guess work…

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Joint Venture Webinar Mastery

On July 28, 2013, in Joint Ventures, Webinars, by Chris Wise

Webinars: Behind The Scenes

When it comes to webinars, there is a lot more to it then just showing up the day of the webinar and having it be successful…

Most people really have no process in place to make sure that their webinar is going to be something that those in attendance will feel like it is worth the time spent on the webinar

Since we started doing webinars, we haven’t seen the type of information on how to have an awesome webinar, so we are going to share it with you TODAY…

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Team Training In A Virtual Environment

Team Training In A Virtual EnvironmentWe have put together our own internal processes and can be used in your business model…

…whether you are an information marketer or a more traditional business selling information

These processes can help you grow your business…

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So You’re Looking For A Coordinator

How To Find A Joint Venture CoordinatorIn this post, I am going to share with you the exact way that we went about finding our joint venture coordinator to work with is in our virtual environment. If you want to maximize your profits doing live events and webinars, then you need an excellent JV coordinator.

Is there a perfect joint venture coordinator out there for you?

With the strategies and resources that are going to be given to you, it is only a matter of time before you know how to find a joint venture coordinator to take your business to the next level!

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Accountability… The Critical Element

accountabilityAccountability is something that ought to be taught in school. Most people want to be held accountable however most people don’t really know how to hold someone accountable.

When it comes to working in a virtual environment… ask yourself, “How important is accountability in the day to day process of my business?”

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